Alright, let’s be real: fall is cool and all, but it’s also that time when the cozy fits and cute boots start coming out, and suddenly you’re feeling some type of way about your body. Whether it’s those jeans that fit differently or seeing everyone flexing on social media, it can mess with your head. But here’s the deal: the “perfect” body is the one you’ve got. Time to cut the BS and start owning who you are, exactly how you are. Here are some self-love tips to start building confidence and showing up for yourself this season.
- Trash the Beauty Standards
Those “perfect” bodies you see online? Filters, angles, and editing. Full stop. Everyone’s out here trying to look like something they’re not, and it’s exhausting—plus, it’s toxic for our teen body image. I mean, social media and body image – enough said. So, don’t get sucked in—real beauty is raw, unfiltered, and messy. Your scars, stretch marks, and freckles? That’s your real story, and it’s way better than anything fake.
Move: Start muting or unfollowing anyone who makes you feel less. Seriously, your feed should be full of people who keep it real, not the ones playing pretend for likes.
- Wear Your Flaws Like Badges
Stretch marks? Acne scars? All that stuff is normal. The beauty industry tries to tell us otherwise to sell products, but newsflash: you don’t need to fix a damn thing. Own it. These things are proof you’re living your life.
Move: Next time you catch yourself nitpicking, flip it. What’s something you like about yourself? Hype that up instead, because self-acceptance hits different. Then, grab your favorite snack because, honestly, you deserve it.
- Forget the Numbers
Numbers are just noise. If your jeans fit differently or you notice a number on the scale, remember, none of that defines you. What matters is how you feel in your skin, period.
Move: Get rid of that scale. Seriously, toss it. Instead, grab a journal and jot down moments when you feel like a total badass.
- Rock Your Style, No Apologies
Fall fashion for teens is about layering up and feeling cozy. Don’t let your insecurities kill your vibe. Wear what you want, and if you feel good in it, because living authentically is the only thing that matters.
Move: Add some killer accessories. A rad scarf or fun beanie can amp up your confidence. Remember: confidence is the hottest thing you can wear.
- Check Yourself on Negative Self-Talk
That voice in your head talking sh*t about your body? Time to shut it down. Catch those negative thoughts. Would you say that to your best friend? Hell no! So stop saying it to yourself.
Affirmation Ideas to Overcome Negative Self-Talk:
- “I am fierce just as I am.”
- “My body is a powerhouse.”
- “I love my one-of-a-kind self.”
Move: Next time you catch yourself being negative, flip it. Give yourself one compliment—even if it feels weird at first. It’s a muscle you gotta work and it’s 100% worth it if you’re serious about having a healthy body image .
- Surround Yourself with Real Ones
Your friends should lift you up, not tear you down. If they’re not about that, it’s time to bounce. Life’s too short for fake energy and toxic friendships—fall’s for cozying up with people who have your back, because honestly what’s better than friendship and support for boosting self-esteem?
Move: Make a pact with your besties to call out any negative talk and hype each other up instead. No fake friends allowed.
- Focus on What Your Body Can Do
It’s not all about looks. Think about everything your body does for you—letting you hang out with your friends, dance, and laugh your ass off. It’s more than just a look, and it deserves respect.
Move: Try out something new this fall, like hiking or going to a haunted house. Appreciate what your body lets you do instead of stressing about how it looks while doing it.
- Spread the Positivity
Body positivity isn’t just for you—it’s for everyone. Lift your friends up and spread those good vibes. One compliment can go a long way, so pass it on.
Move: Compliment someone every day. You never know how much it could make a difference. And when you lift others up, you lift yourself too. It’s a win-win.
Wrap-Up
This fall, ditch the BS and focus on loving yourself. Society’s standards don’t matter—only yours do. Wear what you want, hang with people who lift you up, and give your body the love it deserves.
And that’s how you #loveyourselfharder
If you’re struggling with body image, check out these mental health resources: National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) and the Dove Self-Esteem Project.
